Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Goodbye, for now

I want to share two things with you today.

The first is that I am putting Wanderlust on hiatus. I’ve been on a sort of quasi-hiatus for a few months, posting only sporadically. But I’ve decided to make it official. I’m not shutting down permanently. But for the next few months there is a great deal of transition in my world – big changes -- and I need my time, energy and focus on the home front.

For those of you who are disappointed about this, don’t worry, I’ll be back before too long. For those of you who are expressing glee, steady there. Read to the end of my post.

When I was in the throes of trauma last year, I needed to write. A voice within told me to just keep writing. The engagement and phenomenal support that came from the blogging community was so healing. I could spend the rest of my life saying thank you and it would still feel inadequate.

Today, that same voice is telling me to be silent and to pull my energy in. So I’m listening and trusting.

This is exciting and scary all at once. But more exciting than scary.

Second, I want to share one important thought with you before I go. Bear with me for a moment as I give you some backstory that informs this thought and also explains the cringe-worthy color of my blog today.

As you are probably aware, the Susan G Komen Foundation, a multi-million dollar charitable foundation supporting breast cancer research and preventive education, has been in the news a lot lately. The Foundation is best known for the Race for the Cure and selling lots and lots of pink products (for the cure). They’ve raised a lot of money for worthy causes. That’s awesome.

However, they came under fire for cutting funding to Planned Parenthood, which provides breast exams for a predominantly low-income population. The maelstrom (which appears to be well documented by internal memos) is that the move was politically motivated because PP also provides abortions.

Since then journalists have been digging deeper into the organization and what they’re coming up doesn’t sit well with the public. For instance, Komen has partnered with weapons manufacturers to produce pink handguns (for the cure). For the record, firearms are the second leading cause of death by injury in the U.S.  True, I googled it.

One story, however, particularly bothered me. The Foundation has aggressively sought to censor other organizations that have used the language ‘for the cure’ in their campaigns, claiming trademark infringement. They have filed lawsuits against over 100 other organizations, mostly small, local groups.

According to this article, one family, which runs kite-flying events (Kites for the Cure) to raise money for lung cancer, received a letter from Komen’s lawyers saying they owned the word ‘cure’ and to stop using it. They also reportedly told them never to use the color pink in conjunction with their fundraising. 

Perhaps it’s because I’ve been involved in too many legal dealings the past two years.  And maybe it’s because I’ve had my own words pulled from my blog and thrown back at me in a courtroom, in what I can only presume was an attempt to distract from the crux of the matter under litigation.

But when I read this last article about Komen, it struck me as simply ridiculous. At best.

There’s a lot I don’t know, but here is one thing I do.

Each of our lives is a dance and we get to choose its orchestration. We hear the music. We decide how to express it. Maybe our dance takes the form of a painting or a ceramic mug or, hey ho, a blog. Maybe we express it by nurturing a sick child or creating a loving marriage or getting an education. Maybe someone we love dies of lung cancer and we are inspired to start an organization to fund research into the disease so that, god willing, one day, we can save someone else from the loss we endured. Maybe we become a monk or a teacher or a financial consultant. Maybe we BLOG FOR THE CURE ™! Maybe we go silent. Maybe we turn our site pink to express our dedication to creative expression (but only for a day, because…ugh…pink).

Maybe no one else sees our dance; or they see it and they call it mediocre.

There will always be those who seek to quash our creations. I hate that, I don’t get it, but it’s true. I read it once in the Manual for Surviving Humanoid Life on Earth.

You know what? Don’t let them.

No one can tell you how to interpret the music in your soul. No one can tell you to stop expressing your creative genius – and each of us is a creative genius. No one owns you or your words or an idea or, for heaven's sake, a color. Don’t accept the boundaries that someone else might place on you.

You owe it to the world to keep on. We're waiting breathlessly to see your dance.

Me, I’m not quitting my dance. I’m simply taking it off-stage for a while.

Over and out, geniuses.


  1. Ne'er a truer word written.

    Dancing with you all the way, my lovely (virtual) friend.

    LCM x

  2. Looking forward to your return, K. Will be waiting....with a step ball change and spirit hands. xxx

  3. See you on the flip side, chick. XX

  4. Will miss your posts. You have such a way with words. Enjoy your dance off the interwebz. See you at DPCon12!

  5. I await breathlessly to see your return. Dance away. I adore this post. You are one inspiring woman. Thank you. My prayers are with you for the coming months.x

  6. Looking forward to your return but enjoy whatever you do in the meantime.

    I love that you are following your spirit - if only more people would listen when their spirit speaks.

    Love, hugs and positive energy.

  7. I know that your courage and steadiness will get you through the next few months and help you emerge on the other side stronger than ever. I will miss your writing, but hope to still catch you on the interwebz.

    Take care, my friend...

  8. waaaaah!

    Your post is very kind and balanced. Go in peace. Back in your own good time to blogging.

  9. Because I don't have the words:

    "There is a dance within me.

    It weaves its sensuous threads within all

    that would be me.

    I have no legs.

    Yet the dance will not cease.

    It asks nothing.

    Only sweet surrender to its greedy tones

    sweeping me here, there, everywhere.

    I am no longer me.

    I am within and outside of myself.

    I am the Watcher

    Of the Love within that is me.

    …Of the Rage within that is me.

    …Of desire and release and pain and joy.

    I surprise myself.

    I dance the dance.

    I have no legs.

    The tones are my legs.

    They slither down my would-be body

    Holding me, absorbing me.

    I forget.

    I forget who I am.

    I am the music.

    I am the dance.

    Alfred D Souza"

  10. I am inspired by you following that quiet inner voice and taking action in tune with what you feel inside. Hopefully, we will connect again someday. :)

  11. @Eccles - Wow, that is beautiful! Thanks for sharing it.

  12. Be safe, look forward to your return :)

  13. As someone who has been on "undeclared hiatus" I get it. I look forward to your return :)

  14. Oy. The toaster up there is me...

  15. Go you. good thing! Enjoy your break, enjoy your dance, enjoy your defiance!

  16. I will miss you, but I know you'll be back when you're ready.
    Enjoy the break. xo

  17. The very first thing I noticed - Hey Pink! But then, I love Pink.

    I'm kind of shattered that you're going, but glad you're coming back. I can understand the need to go quiet for a while. I've not really been brave enough to do it.

    But then, I've always thought you were one of the bravest people I 'know'.

    Will you still be around, on FB etc? So we can occasionally contact (stalk) you and say "I still love you, how are things?).

  18. Hugs to u and looking forward to your return.

  19. Will be thinking of you and wishing you well until your return... and then I will be celebrating.

  20. Hope everything goes to plan for you and I look forward to your return and happier times for you. xx

  21. Much love and much strength to you, K. See you when you come back.xxx

  22. Not stressing. I will see you soon x

  23. I will miss reading your blog, but I assume (hopefully) that we will still be in contact via other ways. And I'm still looking forward to meeting you in the flesh someday. :)

  24. Much love and many blessings. See you when I see you! ♥

  25. Noooo!
    But... I understand!

    Best of wishes!!
    Will be keeping a lookout for your words!

  26. A most beautiful "goodbye for now" message K... Go with your gut, it wont fail you. We look forward to seeing you dance like nobody's watching when the time is right xx

  27. Dance away, Wanderlust! It's great and an inspiration that you are listening to that inner voice and taking the time you need to be with yourself. Wishing you the best. xx

  28. I will miss your words.

  29. See you on the other side. Thinking of you. Missing you already. x

  30. We all really miss you..please come back soon..we all will waiting for your new post.
    Show your talents

  31. You so rock... can't wait to see you rolling again. Thanx to Toni @ ChickChat for intro'ing you into my blog addiction.

  32. After all this time, you still give me goosebumps. I hear your truth. And I adore how you capture it, tap into it and feed it out to anyone willing to hear (read).

    Wishing you loads of love and safe travels until the next time you return xoxox

  33. I haven't been checking in much with blogs....but can relate to the silence or need for silence part. Glad you are taking time out and I can so relate. Sometimes we need to dance in public and sometimes we need to dance on our own without anyone watching! Whatever the case....keep dancing!

  34. I've only just discovered your blog and I'm sad you are not going to be posting for a while but also very much respect your decision to follow your gut. Amazing, sage words in this post. And stuff I wasn't aware of.
    Happy hiatus.

  35. It's been a while since I visited, and I was wondering how you were going... and then I read this.

    I totally get why you need to retreat for a bit. And so love that even in your last post for a while you had the ability to still stand for something and pull some punches.

    You're one brave chick. You've gone through some amazing changes in the past year or so, and I just want to say how much I respect you.

    Take care, and see you one day soon. xx

  36. Beautiful that you're staying true to what your heart wants. I hope I will always follow my heart and intuition in the same xx I look forward to reading more from you when you return xx


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