Thursday, July 26, 2012

Get out of the road

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I used to be funny. Or at least fun. Do you remember when I used to be fun?

Maybe not. That was a long time ago.

I was thinking the other day that I miss that – having fun with my writing. I've actually been thinking that for some time. I don't really enjoy writing about divorce and domestic violence and child pornography. Does anyone? But it's right in front of me, so I write about it.

I remember sitting at a conference once and listening to someone talk about brainstorming topics. They would choose their topics a month out and then sit down and write their posts and schedule them. Ta da!

I thought about doing that myself. For about two seconds.

I think that's a great strategy for niche writers. But what if your niche is turning yourself inside out and spilling your guts onto paper? Hard to schedule that kind of thing.

More importantly, I rarely know what I'm going to write until I sit down and write it. I might start writing about marriage, for instance, and end up with a post about how I learned to energetically occupy my own space. (True story – I ended up lopping off the first two paragraphs of that post.)

Little known fact. Lopping off the first two paragraphs of whatever you write is an excellent strategy for creating stronger, tighter posts. You might also want to lop off some paragraphs in the middle. Don't be so attached to your writing. Less is more.

But back to my current topics – seriously tired of them. I'm ready to open myself up and find something else inside. Maybe even something fun. I imagine the only person who hates what I write about more than I hate what I write about is my ex-husband.

When we were married, I rarely wrote about him. I'm sure he wishes he could go back to that anonymity.

But here's the thing. Writers don't choose their topics. Topics choose writers. Writers write about what is in front of them. If you don't want someone to write about you, stop being an obstacle in their lives.

It really is that simple.

If I'm driving down the road and there is an obstacle in the middle of the road, I can't ignore it. I have to deal with it. If you don't want a writer to write about you, get out of the road.

Just in case the Universe subscribes to Wanderlust, here is a list of topics I'd like to find sitting in the middle of the road:

  • Freedom
  • Opportunity
  • Travel to Patagonia
  • Travel to Africa
  • Travel anywhere
  • Love
  • Running a triathlon with London CityMum
  • How to make the perfect smore
  • My hot, new sponsorship deal
  • Great sex
  • Who is sending me all this gourmet dark chocolate?
  • Freedom
  • Freedom
  • Freedom


Okay, are we good? 

Are we clear?

Excellent. Waiting with baited breath...





42 comments:

  1. I hate feeling mired by my life. It's good to break free of the heavy.

    xx

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  2. Like it. Like it a lot... Put it out there girl. You listening universe? This girl wants to have some fun!!

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    1. I should ask for a trip to Brisbane! :)

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  3. IF you get through the voice prompts and reach the universe, do you think you could put in a word for me, too? I miss being fun/funny as well.

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    1. Just hit Option 2. You'll bypass all the recorded messages and go straight to a customer service rep. Or so I hear.

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  4. Love this post.You write about whatever you feel at the time.That is already one kind of wondreful freedom you have.
    Keep up the great work.You are an inspiration for others to find their way to their own kind of freedom.
    Bless your sweet heart for that.xx

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    1. And bless you for your gorgeous, thoughtful comments, Deb. xo

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  5. Sometimes I want to be really funny, then i get writing and it just isnt.

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    1. I know! Can't be forced, can it? It's either there or it's not.

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  6. I really belive that what you focus on expands... Keep focusing on that list!! X

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    1. Catherine, I do too! I'm focusing my (not so) little arse off.

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  7. I had a moment this week where I thought for 2 days that I had a terrible illness. In that space I began to really look at what takes up my time lately, where my writing is constantly about life, death and the very worse thing happening. I decided that I needed to open myself up to more things that were about what I loved the most - my kids, my family, the sun, a good book. You can write about the awful stuff, you can get it, you can explore it but I cant let it define me. Im thinking my list needs some refining x

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    1. Hi Sarah, I'm so glad everything is okay. That must have been scary. I think we can write about heavy topics, and do it in such a way that it is helpful or insightful. But I do think a steady diet of 'heavy' can be hard to take, whether as reader or writer. x

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  8. "If you don't want someone to write about you, stop being an obstacle in their lives." Damn right. Nailed it perfectly. Hope you find all those things on that wonderful list of yours right in front of you very soon!

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    1. Thanks Steve. It can also be said that the opposite is true. If someone is a strong positive influence, there will probably be a post about that too!

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  9. Totally rooting for your "topic-list-to-the-universe".

    Still, the way you're dealing with the obstacle in your path is truly amazing. It smacks of strength, determination and courage. I'm glad you're sharing it, however grudgingly. You are an inspiration.

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    1. Aw, thanks Bina. You're such an incredible sweetheart. x

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  10. Great timing of this post - second time today that I have read that topics choose writers - maybe the univer is telling me something ???
    Love, hugs and positive energy !
    Me

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    1. How funny. Yes, may be be a message your subconscious wants you to hear. :)

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  11. I hope he gets the message ;-)

    Hope for all to come to you on your list!

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    1. Won't happen, but I've got to say it anyway. x

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  12. Funny isn't it how you sit down to write with just an idea and how sometimes the post that you've writen takes twist and turns you never envisaged ...You can't (or at least I can't) schedule posts, they evolve as I write them and yes, lopping off paragraphs works very well for me sometimes too.

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    1. Yes, I'm the same way. I keep thinking I'm going to write several posts so I'll have a backlog. But instead I just write and publish, write and publish... And I never know what I'm going to write about!

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  13. I could hook you up with sex and chocolate...

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    1. At the same time? Not sure I could handle both.

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  14. Writing can be many things, whatever you write, I love reading it. The fun will come soon, the cleansing is happening now, once that is done, the joy will come back, the fun will begin, and freedom will be yours. We are with you through it all. Hugs from Perth xxx

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    1. Thanks Kakka - you always know exactly what to say. x

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  15. I too find that often I sit down to write about a certain topic and something else entirely comes out. I can't write and schedule either :)

    I hope some new fun obstacles find their way into your path soon. I actually wrote a post towards the end of last year about 're-finding my funny' after a good few hard years and I can confirm that having your funny back is most awesome!

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    1. Kelly, that's so good to hear (about reclaiming your funny). I still would like to be able to get a few posts in the queue, but I'm guessing I'll never be one to be that proactive and disciplined with my posting.

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  16. Hi Wanderlust,

    I was thinking about you this week as #pbevent is coming up. I'd love to see you there again.

    I try to be funny and upbeat. Hard sometimes, I think it's good to have a variety of fun and serious stuff.

    Share the story next time something funny happens to you. But mainly just write about what needs to be written:) You're doing a fab job of it.

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    1. Hi Annabel!

      Thank you. I never know what I'm going to write until I sit down to write. I just have to trust the muse. I doubt I'll make it to pb this year, unfortunately. It's a great event. Glad you'll be going again.

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  17. I totally love you Kristin! I have thought these thoughts so much lately. I'd love to write about more fun stuff too or about something other than what lies heavy in my heart. I hear you completely. You didn't choose consciously what was in your path. But by not ignoring things in your path you bring authenticity to your writing - and that is SO important. And you know what? You've totally injected fun and delight into this post. Shazam! Yes, I KNOW you're fun and funny! It DOES shine through. xxx

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    1. Isn't it the truth, though? You have to write what's in front of you (or inside of you). It occurred to me after I wrote this that the kind of writing I enjoy reading is the real authentic stuff, even (often especially) if it's heavy. Thanks for your little comment spree on my recent posts. I totally love you too! x

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    2. I agree with Bright Precious! This was fun. Metaphors make things fun. He is not the only person who could take himself out, you can kick him out of the road, or go around him and enjoy the new scenery!
      Love,
      Jodi

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  18. Nice one. We have a firepit in the backyard here, may just need to start a s'more lab. There's also a Patagonia store near by, but that is probably not what you mean...I'll keep you posted on the lab status. We do no animal testing in the s'more lab, only human.

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    1. I think this experiment will require photographic evidence. Or, better yet, taste testing by me.

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  19. I used to write funny too, but then life got all serious and I can't anymore. I wish I could get that back, but I worry that it's gone for good.

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    1. I doubt it's gone for good. I bet it will come back for both of us. Life is all about cycles. x

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  20. We have a date in the diary, you know that.
    NOW GET TRAINING!

    LCM x

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